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R-E-S-P-E-C-T

R-E-S-P-E-C-T    by leadership freak

Few things sting more than the sting of disrespect.

Put-downs are nothing more than disrespect.

Facebook fans filled in the blank: I feel disrespected when ______.

1. Someone looks at their phone or computer while I’m in a meeting they’ve called.
2. Policy is determined by everyone except those directly involved for implementation and funding.
3. Someone tells me how I feel.
4. I don’t look after myself.
5. People cut me off mid sentence.

Don’t respect:

1. Fakers.
2. Liars.
3. Backstabbers.
4. People who pretend to agree when they don’t.

Extend respect, don’t seek it.

People who respect you:

1. Want to connect with you.
2. Follow your instructions.
3. Trust you.
4. Speak well of you.
5. Listen to you.

Respect feels like admiration.

Special group:

It took me too long to respect those who thought different from me. They were an annoyance.

The people who don’t think like you are hard to respect. But, they expand, extend, and challenge you. Add their perspective, where possible, without losing yours.

The people we respect:

1. Respect themselves. Those who don’t respect themselves won’t respect you.
2. Receive correction with gratitude.
3. Pursue excellence and a tender heart at the same time.
4. Admire those with knowledge..
5. Succeed at helping others succeed.
6. Use positive language more than negative.
7. Tell the truth even when it hurts
8. Demonstrate unique skills in their area of expertise.
9. Honor those over them. (Boards, bosses, authorities)
10. Chase noble goals.
11. Aren’t bull headed.
12. Reject arrogance.
13. Act humbly.
14. Use words sparingly.
15. Learn from experience. They don’t repeat the same mistakes.
16. Acknowledge challenges, but maintain optimism.
17. Think about showing respect rather than receiving it.

Bonus: Earn respect by respecting decisions you disagree with – “How to Disagree.”

If you have to tell someone to respect you, they don’t.

Why Busy Doesn’t Work Anymore

Why Busy Doesn’t Work Anymore  by Leadersip Freak

 

If busyness equaled fulfillment, you’d be fulfilled. But, one meaningless activity after another empties life of meaning.

We spend too much time worried about what we do and too little worried about why we do it.

Leaders with purpose may look like they’re attending meetings. But in reality, they’re inspiring conversation or creating connections.

Lose purpose; lose passion.

Purpose gives menial tasks meaning.

Dread:

Persistent dread points to lost purpose.

You may feel anxiety about tomorrow’s tough conversation. But, meaningful activities provide fulfillment, even when they’re tough.

Leaders with purpose savor life. They don’t dread it.

Finding purpose that fits:

Just try one on. Purpose comes to those who live on purpose.

Don’t waste time sitting under a tree contemplating the meaning of your navel. Just choose a purpose for a day. See how it fits.

Does it:

1. Invite positive responses. We see our purpose in the eyes of others.
2. Pull you forward. Constant pushing suggest lack of purpose.
3. Energize.
4. Provide fulfillment at the end of the day.
5. Align with talents and strengths.

You can’t get anything done if you don’t know why you’re doing it.

Rise above activities. Fulfill purpose.

Mine:
My current purpose statement is. “Make it better.”
It may look like I’m giving presentations or attending meetings. But in truth, I’m making things better.
If I can’t make it better, I don’t want anything to do with it.
You may think I’m having a tough conversation with someone. But, really, I’m making things better.
Purpose as evaluation:
At the end of the day, I’m asking three questions.

1. What did I make better?
2. How did I make things better?
3. What can I make better tomorrow?